Masculine Mystique: The Female Perspective

I rarely ever think of women’s impressions of the tuxedo until I’m actually wearing one.  On those occasions I’m frequently caught off guard by my outfit’s appeal to the fairer sex.  My last cruise was a case in point.  Being complemented by ladies when dressed up on a formal nights was not unexpected but when the accolades continued the following day (including being singled out in an elevator) it really underscored the garment’s impact.

In a similar vein,  when I was chatting with some co-workers about tuxedos once (as I am wont to do), a female colleague made an offhand remark about liking the outfit for all that it implied.  Curious to explore this feminine perspective further, I asked the women in my company (all four of them) what the tuxedo represented to them whether good, bad or indifferent.  As their aged ranged from early 20s to late 40s, many of them had never seen a man in formal wear outside of friends’ weddings.   So for them the tuxedo was something viewed only in the context of TV and movies.  Regardless, there were some universal opinions among the group.

Not surprisingly, they all considered the tuxedo to be sexy.  When I asked whether it was any more or less appealing than a regular suit we began to get to the crux of its appeal: its specialness. Its relative rarity compared to everyday suits made it more visually impactful and more suggestive of a special occasion.  In fact, to see a man in a tuxedo outside of a black-tie context suggests there’s a story behind the attire and that naturally equates to intrigue.

The co-worker most experienced with tuxedos also noted quite astutely that men carry themselves differently when wearing it.  All if which supported the premise I offer in the Guide: “the conventional dinner suit remains unparalleled among modern garments in its ability to transform a man and inspire an evening”.

I’d be very interested to hear other women’s opinions.  Please feel free to share your comments below.


  1. Angela Spell

    I like and agree with the operating principle our guide has astutely pointed out for his readers. Which is that the tuxedo as a uniform is “the great equalizer” across classes of men. Indeed, the fact that it IS uniform, designed with simplicity and mostly unbroken lines to frame every wearer at their most flattering, imbues an air of handsome understated nobility to all men ~ or women ~ who ascribe to donning it well. In which case, first-class sexy it is in my opinion!

    1. Peter Marshall

      Thanks for sharing your perspective Angela.

      1. Angela Spell

        Thank you, Sir Peter Marshall for all you do. I truly enjoy being a part of this elevating community of people who enjoy the timeless mystique and simple sartorial elegance of classic tuxedo. It’s fun! Best regards, Angela Spell, a.k.a. Lady Isis

  2. Joe Z

    I’m not a woman but I can tell you about my experience towards women wearing a dinner suit. Until 2014 I did not really have in mind wearing dinner suits regularly but I ordered a custom-made one when I’ve been in Shanghai again. Some weeks later my former girlfriend visited me and we went out to some nice bars in the evening. Wearing a dinner suit catches the eyes of other guests. Later back home my former girlfriend insisted in not putting off my dinner suit. But maybe she just did not want to see me naked… 😉


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